31 Reasons To Be Grateful For Your Pain

When we’re in pain, we tend to feel sorry for ourselves, and focus on the pain in a self-pitying way, which of course, makes it far worse. If we can shift to feeling grateful for the pain, we open ourselves to the lessons that the experience has for us. So here are 31 reasons to feel gratitude for pain.

                         

1. Pain is a great teacher. Life is so intoxicating, that we often miss the lesson life is giving us. But pain gets our attention like nothing else can.
2. Pain makes life interesting. Life would be much duller without pain.
3. Pain lets you know you’re alive. There is only a brief period in the life of the soul where we get to experience pain. Before we come to earth, there is no pain, nor is there pain after we die. Pain is the privilege of living on the earth, the price of admission for the manifestation of your being in all its glory.
4. Pain reminds you of the fragility of life.
5. By bringing your mortality to your attention, pain reminds you that life is a great opportunity. How are you seizing that opportunity today?
6. Pain means you are going through rapid growth. We often forget this, because the larger design of our life is unclear to us.
7. Pain matures you. People who have experienced a lot of pain seem older. Will that experience translate into wisdom?
8. Pain gives you sympathy for others.
9. Pain is an experience that all living beings share, and it can connect you to the experience of the whole of life.
10. Pain softens your heart.
11. Pain is an opportunity to be brave. Among some of the Native peoples of the Americas, it was seen as a loss of face for a warrior to be captured in combat. To show a captured warrior kindness, his captors would torture him to death slowly, leaving the marks of torture on his body for his tribe to find. This restored his honor, giving him a place in the lore of his tribe, and was called ‘showing brave’. This is an extreme example, but it may help you to deal with your own pain to think of it as an opportunity to handle it with nobility.
12. Pain clears the way for inspiration, like a draft of cold crisp air clears your lungs.
13. Pain deepens the experience of joy. Just as light and shadow are both necessary to perceive form, joy and pain give meaning to each other, enriching the experience of life.
14. Pain teaches you to be grateful for the little things. I injured my floating rib  once doing martial arts, and it hurt a lot during the day, when I was laying down at night, and at lots of other times. It really makes me grateful for the times when my body feels strong and whole.
15. Pain that you experience over time teaches you patience.
16. Pain helps you to surrender. There are many times when we must endure a pain we cannot control. What a beautiful opportunity to surrender to the will of the One Being.
17. Pain teaches you acceptance. Sometimes the pain will go away when we have fully accepted it.
18. Pain can teach you that you are in control of your experience. If you anticipate and fear the pain, you make it worse. If you tell yourself the pain is beneath you, it gets better. If you tell yourself the pain is merely strong sensation, it becomes so.
19. Pain breaks open even the hardest heart.
20. Pain lets you know where your wounds are. All of us have sensitive hearts, whether we are aware of it or not. We may try to cover it up or protect ourselves, but our hearts feel pain and receive wounds. These wounds bring us pain, and its an opportunity to create healing.
21. Feeling pain is much better than feeling nothing.
22. Pain teaches you the value of sacrifice. Giving up something that is dear to you because of something else that is more important is one of the greatest of human qualities, and the key to accomplishment, friendship, and love. Sacrifice and pain are bound together; without pain, sacrifice would have no meaning.
23. Pain is a loyal friend, one who will be there even if everyone else went away. Life has so few constants. It’s comforting to know that pain will be there.
24. Pain causes change, and there is no change without pain.
25. Love brings pain, and the greater the love, the greater will be the pain.
26. The pain of love creates the opportunity to be healed by love.
27. Pain brings the opportunity to triumph over self-pity.
28. Pleasure lulls you to sleep, but pain wakes you up. In the continual awakening of life, pain is the alarm clock.
29. Pain allows you to confront fear. With every painful experience, you have the opportunity to work with your fear; you can endure this, what’s so bad about whatever it is you fear?
30. Enduring pain builds mastery.
31. Pain connects you to some of the greatest human beings who have ever lived. Jesus could not have become Christ without the pain of the crucifixion. I have great admiration for Joan of Arc, Mansur al Hallaj, Noor Inayat Khan, and for the countless others who suffered pain, torment and death for their beliefs. If every pain I experience brings me closer to these beings, it’s worth it.

11 Ways to Build Mastery (Plus, the Essence of Self-Control)

Can you be too disciplined? Can you have too much self-control, too much mastery? If mastery is properly understood, then the answer is no, you can never have too much mastery.

Of course, you can repress your emotions, you can be in denial, you can be controlling and abusive toward others. But that is not real mastery, not self-control at all. Indeed, people tend to do those things when they lack self-control. You do not abuse the weak when you feel strong; you do not manipulate others when you feel in control of yourself.

So how do you gain mastery? Here are eleven ways, in reverse order of importance:

1. Give up a food you like. Food is a fundamental pleasure of life, but how often we let that pleasure rule us. Giving up one kind of food or drink that you really like is an easy way of building mastery. Here’s a hint: don’t tell anyone you’re doing it. This will make it easier in the long run. It gets tiresome to explain every little thing you’re doing to everyone with a passing interest, and it drains your energy. With giving up a food you like, or with any of these exercises, the key is to be very specific. Decide in advance how long the exercise will last, and be specific about what you’ll be doing. To take a personal example: I will not have a Coke for 30 days, but on the 31st day, I’m going to have a big, frosty Coca Cola with lots of ice. Track your results in a journal or on a calendar!
2. Wake up early (or go to sleep late). Ah, sleep! Another of life’s great pleasures. Have you ever noticed that you can get too much sleep? I get a kind of “sleep hangover” if I sleep in too long (at least, that is what I dimly recall from before I had two little ones). If waking up early is hard for you, then you should wake up early. Perhaps you’re the kind of person who already wakes up early and goes to sleep early? Well, try staying up late and still waking up early. The point is to take something away that you like or are used to having. Again, be specific about how long the exercise will last and keep to it. If it’s wake up at a certain time one day, or three days, keep to it, even if it doesn’t seem important. Make a molehill into a mountain. It’s very helpful to have the ability to sleep and wake at will, and this exercise helps with that.
3. Give up a pleasure that you’re addicted to. What are you addicted to? We’ve all got something. Habits creep up on you over time. You know it’s an addiction when you have a tough time breaking it. Maybe it’s a little thing, like having sugar in your tea (that was one of mine that I recently gave up). Maybe it’s driving fast, or listening to the radio at a certain time. Decide what you’re going to change, make it specific, and follow through with it, e.g. “I will not exceed 60 mph for the next week”.
4. Make finishing things (even very small things) a habit. There’s a knot in a piece of string that you’re trying to untie, then you say, “forget it, it doesn’t matter”. Untie it. Recognize that all of life is a kind of a battle, and that each part of it can be decisive, no matter how insignificant it may seem. Of course, you should try not to take on unimportant tasks, but once they are begun, finish them.
5. Sit still. Or stand still. Or stand on one foot. Our bodies are made for movement, and to hold still can feel like a torment. Do you see a pattern emerging here? Mastery is like breaking a horse, except it’s the most sensitive, difficult, touchy horse in the world, a horse who wants to throw you off every second, yet at the same time desperately wants to be ridden: your own self. But once you can ride this horse, there is no place it will not take you. Decide how long you will sit still for, e.g. “I will sit still for 5 minutes”. If you fail, try again. A secret technique for being still: pay attention to your breath.
6. Hold your breath. There is a very specific way of breathing that has a foundational effect on your self-control. It’s called the Square Breath. In a nutshell, the Square Breath is breathe out 8 heartbeats, breathe in 8 beats, and hold for 16 beats. (The number is not important, but the ratio is extremely important: hold for the same length of time as the inhale and exhale combined, and only hold after the inhale.) Practice the exercise for a while first, then decide how many Square Breaths you will do, and try to attain that number. If you miss, try again. Notice the effect this has on you. In my experience, the effect has been quite dramatic, especially if I do 20 or more in a row.
7. Do something that scares you. What do you fear? When I was a child, I was afraid of heights. So I climbed trees, as high as I could. Fear is a cruel captor. Make your escape! Maybe your fear is more subtle, like you are afraid of being betrayed, abandoned, or disappointed. Maybe you’re afraid to succeed. Confronting these fears may be more difficult, but this means the payoff is also greater. Again, be specific about how you will go about it. If you fear sharing your feelings, then you might say, “I will tell 5 people in my life ‘I love you’”.
8. Attain a goal that you care about. The key here is to be specific. Do you want to be stronger? Develop a way to measure that, like “deadlift 300 pounds”. Then make a plan for how to attain it. Then do something each day that will bring you closer to your goal. It should be something you care about, because life is short. Choose a goal as an exercise in bringing about what you desire. Be smart about it. Recognize that big accomplishments take time. Choose something you can do in 9 months, give or take 3 months.
9. Hold your tongue when you really want to speak. Talking is a kind of intoxication, a release of energy and emotion. Control yourself by holding your tongue. There is a nice Buddhist practice that comes to mind here. Before you speak, ask yourself three questions: “Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?” You can tune this exercise by making it specific. Is there a certain kind of thing you tend to say that you’d rather not? Let’s say it’s being critical of others. Then go on a “criticism fast” for 30 days. Mark on your calendar the days you succeeded.
10. Control your anger when you’re really upset. Like speech, giving in to anger is a great intoxication, especially for those who are prone to anger, such as myself. Control over anger is an example of emotional control, which is difficult and extremely valuable. The goal is to be able to feel all your emotions, but choose the time and manner of their expression. Turn anger into determination, and use it to do something you couldn’t do without that emotion.
11. Confront the fear of death by breathing all the way out. There are two secrets to mastery. The first is: control your breath. If you learn to control the most fundamental aspect of your life, then you gain self-control in a fundamental way. The breath can be thought of in three parts: exhalation, inhalation, and holding of the breath. The key part of the breath to control, the part that will yield the biggest payoff in self-mastery and confronting fear, is the exhalation. The reason is that the exhalation brings you closer and closer to the point where there is no air in the lungs, which is much like the moment of death. So breathing all the way out brings you close to death, allowing you to confront the fear of death while you are still alive (and without doing anything crazy or dangerous). This is valuable, because the fear of death is a very real limitation.

The first secret of mastery is to control your breath; the second secret is the Essence of Self Control: Say “I Can”. It may seem simple, but saying “I Can” is the cornerstone of every accomplishment, every act of overcoming, and every breakthrough. The ability to say “I Can” is an energy, which you can gain by a regular practice of energizing your heart.

The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People

 

The thing about habits is that for good and bad they require no thinking. An established habit, whether getting ready for work in the morning or having a whiskey after, is a pattern of behavior we’ve adopted—we stick to it regardless of whether it made sense when we initially adopted it, and whether it makes sense to continue with it years later.  From a human irrationality perspective this means that something we do “just once” can wind up becoming a habit and part of our activities for a longer time than we envisioned.

To get some insight into this process, consider the following experiment:  We asked a large number of people to write the last two digits of their Social Security number at the top of a page, and then asked them to translate their number into dollars (79 became $79), and to indicate if in general they’d buy various bottles of wine and computer accessories for that much money. Then we moved to the main part of the experiment and we let them actually bid on the products in an auction.  After we found the highest bidders, took their money and gave them the products we calculated the relationship between their two digits and how much they were willing to pay for these products.

Lo and behold, what we found is that people who had lower ending Social Security numbers (for example 32), ended up paying much less than people who had higher ending Social Security numbers (for example 79).  This is basically the power of our first decisions: if people first consider a low price decision (would I pay $32 for this bottle of 1998 Cote du Rhone?) they end up only willing to pay a low amount for it, but if they first consider a high price decision (would I pay $79 for this bottle of 1998 Cote du Rhone?) they end up willing to pay a lot more.

So this is the double-edged sword of habits, they can save us time, energy and unpleasant thinking, but on the other hand, it’s all too easy to start down an unwholesome path. Now onto “ The 7 Habits Of Highly Ineffective People”…

1) Procrastination. Joys untold attend this particular bad habit. And it’s one people indulge in all the time, exercise, projects at work, calling the family, doing paperwork, and so on. Each time we face a decision between completing a slightly annoying task now and putting it off for later, battle for self-control ensues. If we surrender, procrastination wins.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with delaying unpleasant tasks at work from time to time in order to watch a (crucial) football game at the pub with friends.  But, the problem is that as we get close to our deadline we start thinking differently about the whole decision.  As we stay up all night to finish a task on time we start wondering what were we thinking when we succumbed to the temptation of the football game, and why didn’t we start on the task a week earlier.  Moreover, as with all habits one procrastination leads to another and soon we get used to watching deadlines as they zoom by.

2) The planning fallacy. This is more or less what it sounds like; it’s our tendency to vastly underestimate the amount of time we’ll require to complete a task. This hardly needs illustration, but for the sake of clarity, recall the last time you delegated time to a complex task. Cleaning your flat from top to bottom (couldn’t take more than two hours right? Wrong.); finishing the paper or project at hand (who knew the people in department X could be so impossibly slow?). The problem is that even if we try to plan for delays, we can’t imagine them all. What if the person you’re working out a deal with gets hospitalized? What if an important document gets deleted or lost? There are infinite possible delays (procrastination of course being one of them), and because there are so many, we end up not taking them into account.

3) Texting while driving. Let me start by saying that in my class of 200 Master’s students, 197 admitted not only to doing this regularly, but also to having made driving mistakes while doing so. Also, one of the three abstainers in the class was physically blind, so we should not really count him as a saint, and who knows maybe the other two were liars. Texting while driving is clearly very stupid.  If we were not intimately familiar with our own Texting behavior, we might think that it’s insane to think that anyone would knowingly increase their chances of dying 10 fold rather than waiting a few minutes to check email, but this is the reality.  Moreover, the issue here is not just Texting, it is much more general than this particular bad habit.  The basic issue has to do with succumbing to short-term desires and foregoing long-term benefits.  Across many areas in our life, when temptation strikes we very often succumb to it (think about your commitment to always wearing a condom when you are not aroused and when you are).  And we do this over and over and over.

4) Checking email too much. If it seems that there’s too much about email on this list, I assure you, there isn’t. Checking email is addictive in the same way gambling is. You see, years back the famous psychologist B.F. Skinner discovered that rats would work much harder if the rewards were unpredictable (rather than a treat every 5 times they pressed a bar, one would come after 4, then 13, etc). This is the same as email, most of it is junk, but every so often, it’s fantastic: an email from the woman you’ve been chasing for instance. So we distract ourselves from work by constantly checking and checking and waiting to hit the email jackpot. And to be perfectly honest, I’ve checked my email at least 30 times since starting writing this article.

5) Relativity in salary. The fatter a sea lion is, the more sea lionesses he has in his harem. He doesn’t need to be immense, just slightly bigger than the others (too fat and he won’t make it out of the water). As it turns out, it’s the same for salaries; we don’t figure out how much we need to be satisfied, we just want to make more than the people around us. More than our co-workers, more than our neighbors, and more than our wife’s sister’s husband.  The first sad thing about our desire to compare is that our happiness depends less on us, and more on the people around us.  The second sad thing is that we often make decisions that make it harder for us to be happy with our comparisons: Would you prefer to get a 50,000 pound salary where salaries range from 40,000-50,000 or a 55,000 pound salary where they’re between 55,000-65,000? If you’re like almost everyone, you’d realize that you would be happier with the 50,000 pound salary, but you would pick the 55,000.

6) Overoptimism. Everyone, except for the very depressed, overestimates their chances when it comes to good things like getting a raise, not getting a divorce, parking illegally without getting a ticket. It’s natural—no one gets married thinking “I am so going to be divorced in 4 years”, and yet a large number of people end up getting divorced.  Like other bad habits, overoptimism is not all bad.  It helps us take risks like opening a business (even though the vast majority fail) or working to develop new medicines (which take many years and usually don’t pan out). Ironically overoptimism often tends to work out well for society (new restaurants, cures for disease) while endangering the individuals who take them (financial ruin, stress-induced insanity).  Sadly we are often overoptimistic – my most recent example of this was just a few hours ago when I sat down to write an essay entitled: “The 7 Habits Of Highly Ineffective People.”  If I only didn’t go out last night…..

Hope=Energy

Think about the last time you felt energetic.
Most likely, it was when you were anticipating a positive experience in the near future.  Why is this so often the case?
The answer is becoming increasingly clear in this psychological research and literature in the field known as positive psychology.
Positive psychology is a relatively new field of study that has shifted the focus away from pathology (people who have problems, or things that go wrong with our minds).
Instead of researching the minds and behavior of people who are experiencing emotional difficulty, psychological research in the positive psychology arena has increasingly focused on positive emotions and the powerful effect of positive emotions on our lives.
Have we learned anything useful yet?
You bet, and some of the most astounding findings have to do with the positive human emotion and thought process frequently referred to as “hope.”
What is it exactly?
Hope is rather difficult to define because the things people hope for vary so significantly.
Nonetheless, a good general description of hope would be a positive expectation with thoughts and emotions that reflect a consciously or unconsciously held belief that something we desire will occur.
If you think about that definition, you may notice that hope is a near opposite to depression.
And one of the things we know about depression is that it shuts down your energy.  If you are serious about modifying any aspect of your life in a positive direction, energy is a critical ingredient to change that you cannot do without.
So how can we harness the energy that comes from hope?
The most obvious answer is to increase the frequency and intensity of hope in your daily life.
An even better answer is to increase the frequency and intensity of hope regarding the specific plans you have for positively changing your life.
That last point was important, so I’m going to repeat it in different words to make sure you didn’t miss the point.
Increasing hope will increase your energy, but life modification will occur much more rapidly when you make purposeful attempts to increase the hope you experience regarding a narrow band of goals that have deep personal meaning for you.
So how do you do it?
How do you actually increase hope on purpose?
You can increase your hope by following a set of simple steps.
First, set a very clear and very realistic goal with a deadline that you choose for completion of the goal based on a realistic assessment of the time commitment and energy you have available for pursuing your goal.
I used the word “realistic” twice in that last sentence for a reason.
You won’t experience much hope if you feel your goal is unattainable or unrealistic.
Many motivational speakers encourage their listeners to set the highest goals they can possibly imagine.  While there are times when such a mental exercise can be valuable, sky-high goals should not be the foundation of attempts at true life modification.
If you are banking on luck to reach your goal, your hope will be low, and your energy will be low.
With low energy, you will join the masses who are stuck in commonplace, mundane activities that merely maintain the status quo in their lives.
Choose to be different.
Design your goals so that the only ingredients you need to add to your plan are effort and consistency.
When you have designed your goals and the specific steps that you will take to reach your goals, only consistent effort should remain as a factor that is yet to be determined as the future plays out.
With this kind of goal setting, you will be amazed to find that you feel happier and more hopeful on a daily basis.
As a result, your quality of life will go up at the same time that you work harder toward achieving your goals because of your new-found energy.
This article is really about leveraging your emotions correctly in order to create the life that you desire.  Leveraging your emotions is one of the critical elements we teach in the life modification system.
Go beyond intrigue and put these ideas to work in your life.
The results will speak for themselves.
-Dr. Todd Snyder

It Shows In Your Face

You don’t have to tell how you live each day;
You don’t have to say if you work or you play;
A tried, true barometer serves in the place–
However you live, it will show in your face.

The false, the deceit that you bear in your heart,
Will not stay inside where it first got a start;
For sinew and blood are a thin veil of lace–
What you wear in your heart, you wear in your face.

If your life is selfless, if for others you live,
For not what you get, but how much you can give;
If you live close to God in his infinite grace–
You don’t have to tell it, it shows in your face.

See It Through

When you’re up against a trouble,
Meet it squarely, face to face;
Lift your chin and set your shoulders,
Plant your feet and take a brace.
When it’s vain to try to dodge it,
Do the best that you can do;
You may fail, but you may conquer,
See it through!
Black may be the clouds about you
And your future may seem grim,
But don’t let your nerve desert you;
Keep yourself in fighting trim.
If the worst is bound to happen,
Spite of all that you can do,
Running from it will not save you,
See it through!

Even hope may seem but futile,
When with troubles you’re beset,
But remember you are facing
Just what other men have met.
You may fail, but fall still fighting;
Don’t give up, whate’er you do;
Eyes front, head high to the finish.
See it through!

Why Not Think?

It’s a little thing to do,
Just to think,
Anyone, no matter who,
Ought to think,
Take a little Time each day
From the minutes thrown away,
Spare it from your work or play,
Stop and think.
You will find that those who fail
Do not think.
Half the trouble that we see,
Trouble brewed for you and me
Probably would never be
If we’d think!

3 Good Motivational Quotes Software Programs

Here are 3 pretty good quote apps worth downloading:

1) Wisdom of the Ages

This is a collection of 6500+ quotes organized by topic. The quotes are pretty good too. My only complaint is that you can’t copy them to your clipboard unless you pay to unlock that feature. But the free version seems to work ok!

2) Intelliquote

This one is free, is searchable, and has about 3400 quotes. When you minimize it, it will show pop up quotes in your system tray. This app also allows you to copy and paste quotes out of it.

3) Notable Quotable:

This one has 4200 quotes and allows you to copy a quote to a clipboard. It’s quite easy to cycle through the quotes quickly, I find, mainly because the font is so big. But the quotes are organized by author, which makes it impossible to search out a topic you’re interested in! Strangely, they set this app with a 60 day license, yet don’t appear to provide a reason why they do this. There is no upgrade fee to pay, so what’s the point?

Anyway, I know there are other similar apps out there. I know there’s a huge one that I’m forgetting; one with 40,000 quotes in it, but I forget the URL. I once owned it, but lost it in a crash.

KINDNESS

If you were busy being kind
Before you knew it you would find,
You’d soon forget to think it was true
That someone was unkind to you.

If you were busy being glad
And cheering people who were sad,
Although your heart might ache a bit,
You’d soon forget to notice it.

If you were busy being good
And doing just the best you could,
You’d not have time to blame the man
Who’s doing the very best he can.

If you were busy being true
To what you know you ought to do,
You’d be so busy you’d forget
The blunders of the folks you’ve met.

Knowing the Highest Happiness

Hi Everyone,

Just a quick one today. Here’s your thought:

“The only way you can live a truly creative life or know the
highest happiness is by developing your own unique potential.”
-Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Listen To The Right Voices

The world is full of myriad voices directly to those who dare listen. Many voices take the stage in virtually all names you can imagine. The voices of the voiceless, the voices of the poor, the voices of the marginalized, the voices of….you can name it. The salient truth is that these voices have a targeted group.

A number of questions must be brought to the fore. Which voices should you listen to? Would it be possible to avoid some voices? What are the repercussions for listening to some of the incoming voices? These questions beg clear and unequivocal answers.

Choices must be made in regard to the voices to be listened to. A continued exposure to unworthy and worthy voices will influence you positively or negatively. Some voices speak hope, encouragement, success, motivation, positive attitude and breakthrough. These are the voices you should tune your ears to.

Other voices speak negativity, discouragement, hopelessness, haplessness, impossibility and distress. These are the voices to avoid at all costs. They devalue us and diminish our chances to become better.

It is noteworthy that our friends house these voices. The choice of our friends is directly proportional to the choice of the voices we want to listen to. The will encourage or discourage us. They will help us build positive or negative attitude.

They will influence us to move out of or stay in our comfort zones. They can kill or nourish our dreams in life. The bottom line is that we all have the responsibility of choosing our desired voices. Beware of the friends you choose because they may influence the voices you listen to.

Chart Your Own Path To Success

It has been said that the only person who can promote yourself is YOU. There is no one who can make you better other than you. No one will put you into limelight unless you make a concerted effort to do so.

No one will tell your story unless you step forward and narrate it. It is you to make that story and tell it the way you want it told. Think about Oprah Winfrey. She made it happen in her life even in the face vast challenges in her youth. She overcame various kinds of abuse and chose to make a difference not only in her life but also in the lives of men and women worldwide.

Mohammed Ali had to muster the best self-belief, tremendous confidence, and unquenchable desire to win the international boxing bout against Liston. He told the world that he was the greatest. He walked it, he believed it, and acted it.

The only person who can define and determine your destiny is you. You have the responsibility to managing your thoughts. Your positive thinking will spur positive actions and productive habits. Your good habits will shape a fulfilling character in your life. Your life will be fruitful as well.

You must refuse to listen to the voices that preach defeat, impossibility, small dreams, negative attitude, discouragement, and disillusionment. Beware of people who will steal and belittle your dreams. It is your success, dreams, and victory; it not theirs. It cannot be them. The best person to set the goals of your career and life is you. It will never be the duty of your life coach, friends, and parents. It is all about you.

To Achieve Your Dreams Remember Your ABCs

Avoid negative sources, people, and places, things and habits.
Believe in yourself.
Consider things from every angle.
Don’t give in.
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come.
Family and friends are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches.
Give them more than you planned to.
Hang on to your dreams.
Ignore those who try to discourage your.
Just do it.
Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier.
Love yourself first and foremost.
Make it happen.
Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.
Open your eyes and see things as they really are.
Quitters never win and winners never quit.
Read, study and learn about everything important in your life.
Stop procrastinating.
Take control of your destiny.
Understand yourself in order to understand others.
Visualize it.
You are unique of all God’s creations, nothing can replace YOU.
Zero in on your target and go for it!

-Wanda Hope Carter

Self-Control Quotes

Here’s 30 quotes on self-control. Which ones jump out at you?

1. Control your destiny or somebody will. -Jack Welsh

2. Rule your mind or it will rule you. -Horace

3. He who reigns within himself, and rules passions, desires, and fears, is more than a king. -John Milton

4. The control centre of your life is your attitude. -Anonymous

5. I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul. -William Henley

6. He who angers you conquers you. -Elizabeth Kenny

7. He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still. -Tao Te Ching

8. Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control–these three alone lead life to sovereign power. -Alfred Tennyson

9. Speak when you are angry and you will make best speech you will ever regret. -Ambrose Bierce

10. You have no control over what the other guy does. You only have control over what you do. -A. J. Kitt

11. I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self. -Aristotle

12. You can’t always control the wind, but you can control your sails. -Anthony Robbins

13. In the midst of movement and chaos keep stillness inside of you. -Deepak Chopra

14. Such power there is in clear-eyed self-restraint. -James Russell Lowell

15. Prudent, cautious self-control, is wisdom’s root. -Robert Burns

16. When we direct our thoughts properly, we can control our emotions. -W. Clement Stone

17. What man’s mind can create, man’s character can control. -Thomas Edison

18. To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart. -Donald Laird

19. When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone. -George O’Neil

20. If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self. -Napoleon Hill

21. The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts. -Charles Darwin

22. No one can make you jealous, angry, vengeful, or greedy–unless you let him. -Napoleon Hill

23. The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you don’t you, life controls you. -Anthony Robbins

24. No man is fit to command another that cannot command himself. -William Penn

25. Not to have control over the senses is like sailing in a rudderless ship, bound to break to pieces on coming in contact with the very first rock. -Mohandas Gandhi

26. Your brain shall be your servant instead of your master. You will rule it instead of allowing it to rule you. -Charles Popplestone

27. You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair. -Chinese Proverb

28. Self-determination is fine but needs to be tempered with self-control. -Anonymous

29. No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change. -Barbara De Angelis

30. Ultimately, the only power to which man should aspire is that which he exercises over himself. -Elie Wiesel

Ten Commandments

1. Never put off till to-morrow what you can do to-day.
2. Never trouble another for what you can do yourself.
3. Never spend your money before you have earned it.
4. Never buy what you do not want because it is cheap.
5. Pride costs more than hunger, thirst and cold.
6. We seldom report of having eaten too little.
7. Nothing is troublesome that we do willingly.
8. How much pain evils have cost us that have never happened!
9. Take things always by the smooth handle.
10. When angry, count ten before you speak, if very angry, count a hundred.

Count That Day Lost

If you sit down at set of sun
And count the acts that you have done,
And, counting, find
One self-denying deed, one word
That eased the heart of him who heard,
One glance most kind
That fell like sunshine where it went–
Then you may count that day well spent.

But if, through all the livelong day,
You’ve cheered no heart, by yea or nay–
If, through it all
You’ve nothing done that you can trace
That brought the sunshine to one face–
No act most small
That helped some soul and nothing cost–
Then count that day as worse than lost.

Love

Love is one of the most subtle blessings that the Most Merciful One has bestowed upon humanity. It exists in everyone as a seed. This seed germinates under favorable circumstances and growing like a tree blossoms into a flower and finally ripens like a fruit to unite the beginning with the end.

Love penetrates as a feeling into our inner being through the inlets of our eyes ears and heart. It then swells like water behind a dam grows like an avalanche or engulfs our very being like a flame. It starts to subside only when it results in union. The flame goes out the reservoir empties and the avalanche melts away.

Love is a natural and essential aspect of our being. But when it is transformed into "true love"-love of the Creator-it acquires its true nature and color and later becomes "pure" pleasure at the threshold of union.

One's heart is a receptive port for Divine manifestations. Your love of the Creator and yearning to return to Him is the clearest sign of your being loved by God.

Love is the most direct and safest way to human perfection. It is difficult to attain the rank of human perfection through ways that do not contain love. Other than the way of "acknowledging one's innate impotence poverty and reliance on God's Power and Riches and one's zeal in His way and thanksgiving." no other way to truth is equal to that of love.

Love is a mount bestowed upon us by God that carries us toward the Paradise we lost. No one who has ridden this mount has ever been stranded on this road although we sometimes find people on this celestial mount walking on the road side due to some boastful words they utter because of their intoxication from joy. However this is a matter between them and God.

Neither the "flames" of the world nor the fire of Hell can "burn" those who already have been "burnt to ashes" by love. Those who burn with the fear of Hellfire while in this world will not go to Hell. The final abode of those who feel secure against Hellfire will most probably be Hell. Those who burn here in the flames of love and suffer Hell on earth by struggling against their carnal selves and the world will most certainly not be subjected again to the same suffering in the Hereafter.

Love makes us forget our own existence and annihilates our existence in the existence of our beloved. It therefore requires the lover always to want the beloved and thus to dedicate himself or herself without expecting any return completely to the desires of the beloved. This is according to my way of thinking the essence of humanity.

In the way of love even a slight imagined inclination of the lover to someone or something other than the beloved means the end of love. Such an inclination is forbidden. Love continues as long as the lover sees the beloved in everything around him or her and regards every beauty and perfection as the manifestation of the beloved. If this is not the case love dies.

Lovers cannot imagine any opposition no matter how small to the beloved. They cannot endure to see the beloved veiled by something that causes Him to be forgotten. Moreover lovers regard as futile any speech that is not about the beloved and any act that is not related to Him as ingratitude and disloyalty.

Love means the heart's attachment and the will power's inclination toward the beloved. It also means the feelings' being purified of anything or anyone else other than the beloved and all the senses and faculties of the lover being turned to and set on the beloved only. Every act of the lover reflects the beloved: his or her heart always beats with yearning for the beloved; his or her tongues always murmurs the beloved's name and his or her eyes open and close with the beloved's image.

Seeing the beloved's traces in the blowing wind the falling rain the murmuring stream the humming forest the dawning morning and the darkening night the lover comes alive. Seeing the beloved's beauty reflected in everything around him or her the lover becomes exuberant. Feeling the beloved's breath in every breeze the lover becomes joyful. Feeling the beloved's occasional reproaches the lover moans in sorrow.

Lovers who awaken to the dawn of the beloved's signs find themselves engulfed by a flood of flames. They burn therein never desiring to escape this pleasant "hell." They are like volcanoes ready to erupt and their groans are like lava which burns everything it touches.

One should not confuse true love with the feeling felt for members of the opposite sex. Such love although sometimes transformed into true love is deficient temporary and has no inherent value.

It is impossible to express love with words for love is an emotional state that can be understood only by the lover.

Lovers are intoxicated with their love admiration and appreciation of the beloved. Only the trumpet announcing the Day of Judgment will bring lovers to their senses.

Only true love will end the pain caused by being ephemeral and extinguish the "flames" in which the afflicted "burn." True love will cure all apparently incurable pain and disease and answer the cries of the modern world.

If we do not plant the seeds of love in the hearts of young people whom we try to revive through science knowledge and modern culture they will never attain perfection and free themselves completely from their carnal desires.

JOY

Every single day, no matter who you meet in the day - friends, family, work colleagues, strangers - give joy to them. Give a smile or a compliment or kind words or kind actions, but give joy! Do your best to make sure that every single person you meet has a better day because they saw you. This might sound like it is not connected with you and your life, but believe me it is inseparably connected through cosmic law.

As you give joy to every person you meet, you bring joy to YOU. The more you can give joy to others, the more you will bring the joy back to you.

WEALTH

Money
Money is magnetic energy. You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings.

To become a powerful money magnet:

Be clear about the amount of money you want to receive. State it and intend it! Don’t think about how much you can earn, but how much you want to receive.

Fall in love with money. Most people do not love money, because they always feel that they don't have enough of it.

Visualize and imagine yourself spending all the money you want, as though you have it already.

Speak, act, and think from the mindset of being wealthy now. Eliminate thoughts and words of lack such as "I can't afford it", "It is too expensive".

Do not speak or think of the lack of money for a single second.

Be grateful for the money you have. Appreciate it as you touch it.

Make lists of all the things you will buy with an abundance of money.

Do whatever it takes for you to feel wealthy.

Affirm to yourself every day that you have an abundance of money, and that it comes to you effortlessly.

Appreciate all the riches around you, including the riches of others. Look for wealth wherever you go, and appreciate it.

Be certain that money is coming to you.

Love yourself and know that you are deserving and worthy of an abundance of money.

Remind yourself everyday that you are a money magnet, and ask yourself often during the day, am I attracting money now or pushing it away with my thoughts?

Always, always pay yourself first from your wage, then pay your creditors. In that single act, you are telling the Universe that you are worthy and deserving of more.

Repeat over and over every day, "I am a money magnet and money comes to me effortlessly and easily."

Write out a check to yourself for the sum of money you would like to have and carry it in your wallet. Look at it often.

Do whatever it takes to feel good. The emotions of joy and happiness are powerful money magnets. Be happy now!

Love yourself!
Wealth is a mindset. Money is literally attracted to you or repelled from you. It's all about how you think.

RELATIONSHIPS

You can completely transform any relationship, no matter what it's like right now.

Every single relationship you have is a reflection of how you feel inside about you. You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings. Every relationship you have and every interaction with every person, is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings in that very moment.

To transform every single relationship you have in your life:


Fall in love with YOU!

Make lists of hundreds and hundreds of wonderful things about you. Keep adding to it every day.

Know that you are perfect. Do not think any negative thoughts about you.

Know that you are worthy and deserving of anything and everything you could possibly want in your life.

Focus on the wonderful things in every person. Look for only those things.

Do not blame or criticize anybody, ever.

Set an intention that you are going to see the best in everything and everyone.

Make your happiness the number one thing in your life. Happiness is an inside job.

Free yourself of the responsibility of trying to make other people happy. Respect and love them enough to allow them to take care of their own happiness.

Get your attention off those things in others that don't make you feel good.

Appreciate and love yourself in every moment you can.

Do not expect others to behave in a way you want, so you will be happy. Release yourself forevermore and know that you alone control your happiness and it is a choice, no matter what anyone else is doing.

Love and respect yourself completely.

Know that you are perfect right now.

HEALTH

You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings.

To open yourself up and become a powerful magnet to wellness and health from wherever you are now:


Love yourself! Deeply, profoundly! Make lists of all the wonderful things about you. Add to it every day.

Free yourself of any past resentments or disappointments you may be holding about you.

Let go of any and all resentments from the past you may be holding of everyone and everything.

See yourself as completely well in your mind and visualize yourself doing things in a complete state of perfect health.

Do not speak of your illness, or disease with others.

Love and appreciate everything and everyone, and especially yourself.

Know you have the power within you to heal yourself.

Never criticize or blame yourself or anyone else for anything.

Be grateful for the wellbeing that is coming to you.

See yourself as only well.

Be happy, knowing that in your state of happiness your body is healing itself.

As you appreciate, as you love, as you are happy, as you are grateful, you are summoning wellbeing and it is pouring through your body and disease is vanishing in the moment.

Laugh! Hire funny movies or recall any memories that make you laugh. Laugh your way back to health.

Make lists every day of all the things you are grateful for, including being grateful for your healing and complete wellbeing.

You must do whatever you can to remove your attention from disease.

Distract yourself from thoughts of disease, and put all of your focus and attention on doing things that make you feel good.

Make your happiness the number one thing in your life.

Resist nothing, love everything!

Know that there is no such thing as incurable.

As you love completely and feel the joy within you, disease cannot exist.

Know and accept that you are perfect as you are right now.

KNOWLEDGE FACT

WISDOM

India's Time Less Wisdom

He is the one deity hidden in all beings,the all pervading self abiding in all beings,the controller of all activities,the indwelling self of all,the witness,the enlightener,the absolute beyond all attributes.

Boldness Quotes

1. Boldness be my friend. -William Shakespeare
2. Boldness is a mask for fear, however great. -John Dryden
3. People who make no mistakes lack boldness and the spirit of adventure. They are the brakes on the wheels of progress. -Dale Turner
4. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
5. Put a grain of boldness into everything you do. -Baltasar Gracian
6. Freedom lies in being bold. -Robert Frost
7. Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them. -Orison Swett Marden
8. You must play boldly to win. -Arnold Palmer
9. Fortune befriends the bold. -John Dryden
10. A decent boldness ever meets with friends. -Homer
11. Act honestly, and answer boldly. -Danish proverb
12. When you cannot make up your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you should take – choose the bolder. -William Joseph Slim
13. Boldness is ever blind, for it sees not dangers and inconveniences whence it is bad in council though good in execution. -Francis Bacon
14. Virtue is bold, and goodness never fearful. -William Shakespeare
15. In great straits and when hope is small, the boldest counsels are the safest. -Titus Livy
16. We make way for the man who boldly pushes past us. -Christian Nevell Bovee
17. He who finds Fortune on his side should go briskly ahead, for she is wont to favor the bold. -Baltasar Gracian

Intelligence Quotes

Continuous effort – not strength or intelligence – is the key to unlocking our potential. -Winston Churchill


It is wiser to find out than to suppose. -Mark Twain

Intelligence is not to make no mistakes, but quickly to see how to make them good. -Bertolt Brecht

I know that I am intelligent, because I know that I know nothing. -Socrates

Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know. -Ernest Hemingway

It is not enough to have a good mind; the main thing is to use it well. -Rene Descartes

For all things difficult to acquire, the intelligent man works with perseverance. -Lao Tzu

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power. If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich. -Tao Te Ching

Where two discourse, if the one’s anger rise, The man who lets the contest fall is wise. -Euripides

Anyone who conducts an argument by appealing to authority is not using his intelligence; he is just using his memory. -Leonardo da Vinci

Only the extremely ignorant or the extremely intelligent can resist change. -Socrates

An intelligent man is sometimes forced to be drunk to spend time with his fools. -Ernest Hemingway

Be neither silly, nor cunning, but wise. -Benjamin Franklin

Intelligence is really a kind of taste: taste in ideas. -Susan Sontag

Nothing in education is so astonishing as the amount of ignorance it accumulates in the form of facts. -Henry Brooks Adams

Be not afraid of life. Believe that life IS worth living and your belief will help create the fact. -James Truslow Adams

Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently. -Moshe Arens

Knowing what you can not do is more important than knowing what you can do. In fact, that’s good taste. -Lucille Ball

Half of the world’s misery comes from ignorance. The other half comes from intelligence. -Baslo

Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level. -Dr. Joyce

We should not only use the brains we have, but all that we can borrow. -Woodrow Wilson

What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult. -Sigmund Freud

If the human brain were so simple that we could understand it, we would be so simple that we couldn’t. -Emerson M. Pugh

The bookful blockhead, ignorantly read, With loads of learned lumber in his head. -Alexander Pope

Some people take more care to hide their wisdom than their folly. -Jonathan Swift

The invention of IQ does a great disservice to creativity in education. -Joel Hildebrand

I think the world is run by C students. -Al McGuire

Character is higher than intellect. -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Intuition Quotes

Intuition isn’t the enemy, but the ally, of reason. -John Kord Lagemann


Listen to your intuition. It will tell you everything you need to know. -Anthony J D’Angelo

Intuition comes very close to clairvoyance; it appears to be the extrasensory perception of reality. -Alexis Carrel

A woman’s guess is much more accurate than a man’s certainty. -Rudyard Kipling

All human knowledge thus begins with intuitions, proceeds thence to concepts, and ends with ideas. -Immanuel Kant

Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain, but simply points the way. -Florence Scovel Shinn

Intuition is the clear conception of the whole at once. -Johann Kaspar Lavater

Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level. -Joyce Brothers

What I am actually saying is that we need to be willing to let our intuition guide us, and then be willing to follow that guidance directly and fearlessly. -Shakti Gawain

Good instincts usually tell you what to do long before your head has figured it out. -Michael Burke

Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do. -Benjamin Spock

Instinct is untaught ability. -Bain

An artist’s instinct is more refined than the typical mortal’s. -Holden Rinehart

Instinct is the nose of the mind. -Madame De Girardin

If the single man plant himself indomitably on his instincts, and there abide, the huge world will come round to him. -Ralph Waldo Emerson

There is no instinct like that of the heart. -Lord Byron

An absolute can only be given in an intuition, while all the rest has to do with analysis. -Henri Bergson

Cease trying to work everything out with your minds. It will get you nowhere. Live by intuition and inspiration and let your whole life be Revelation. -Eileen Caddy

Faith is a passionate intuition. -William Wordsworth

I allow my intuition to lead my path. -Manuel Puig

Improvised music involves a lot of intuition and I like developing intuition. -Fred Frith

Intuition does not in itself amount to knowledge, yet cannot be disregarded by philosophers and psychologists. -Corliss Lamont

Intuition is the very force or activity of the soul in its experience through whatever has been the experience of the soul itself. -Henry Reed

Intuition will tell the thinking mind where to look next. -Jonas Salk

The intuition of free will gives us the truth. -Corliss Lamont

Trusting our intuition often saves us from disaster. -Anne Wilson Schaef

What’s better, a poetic intuition or an intellectual work? I think they complement each other. -Manuel Puig

HOW BIG THE GOD IS

LIVE IN PRESENT

Women Quotes

Here are a bunch of quotes about women that a friend collected and sent to me:
Every time we liberate a woman, we liberate a man. -Margaret Mead
Women are the real architects of society. -Harriet Beecher Stowe
Educate a man and you educate an individual. Educate a woman and you educate a family. -A. Cripps
I would have girls regard themselves not as adjectives but as nouns. -Elizabeth Cady Stanton
In the faces of men and women I see God. -Walt Whitman
Equal pay for women is a matter of simple justice. -Mary Anderson
The test for whether or not you can hold a job should not be the arrangement of your chromosomes. -Bella Abzug
Woman is the companion of man, gifted in equal mental capacity. -Mohandas Gandhi
If we mean to have heroes, statesmen and philosophers, we should have learned women. -Abigail Adams
How important it is to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes. -Maya Angelou
There is no tool for development more effective than the empowerment of women. -Kofi Annan
You don’t have to be anti-man to be pro-woman. -Jane Galvin Lewis
The only way for a woman, as for a man, to find herself, to know herself as a person, is by creative work of her own. There is no other way. -Betty Friedan
If you can intervene early in the lives of girls here and in other parts of the world, you can begin to change the prospects for the future. -Jane Fonda
The extension of women’s rights is the basic principle of all social progress. -Charles Fourier
We women have the same capacity and potential for power to allow us to be participants in our own destiny. -Rafaela Vos Obeso
One of the things about equality is not just that you be treated equally to man, but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man. -Marlo Thomas
Women’s empowerment is intertwined with respect for human rights. -Mahnaz Afkhami
I do not wish them to have power over men, but over themselves. -Mary Woolstonecraft
There is no occasion for women to consider themselves subordinate or inferior to men. -Mohandas Gandhi

Upward Reaching

The soul of man, to what end is it striving?
What is the destiny, what is the goal?
This constant upward reaching of the soul–
What force behind it does the ceaseless driving?
Upward reaching but implies a quest
Unending, for the things we deem the best,
For that which goes to make the perfect whole–
Insatiable striving for a better role.
With what speed, then, is man’s success arriving?
Endowed with instincts meant to goad him on
Toward the infinite, from dawn to dawn,
From his struggle, how much good deriving?
Man’s speed, or progress, toward that holier sphere,
Is measured through the knowledge he gains here,
And man will go on reaching endlessly;
There is no terminal–no finality.
-Amelia Peart Macdonald

No Goal or Prize = No Finish Line

I half-heartedly laugh when I hear someone say they enjoy running. I mean, come on.
Do I run? Yes. Do I enjoy it? No. Except for the finish line.
I guess what I’m saying is that when I train for a half marathon, I need a little motivation. Because, really, it’s not so fun to get up at 6 in the morning. And it’s even less fun keeping the legs moving for an hour straight, or two hours straight – eventually. I mean, this takes REAL effort.
But I have found one thing to keep me motivated while running one-mile circles around a stagnant lake… but first…
I guess everyone has their reasons for putting forth real effort, keeping their eyes focused on the prize… family, money, ego are probably among the most popular. Of course, some people do things just for the hell of it. But if it’s really worth it, can it really be that easy? I’m not convinced.
In order for me to go to the gym, I need to know for certain that one sign on the wall will still be there: Sacrifice + Sweat = Success. There! Now I can run a couple more miles on the treadmill and do a few more exercises! Either that, or I need that trainer or friend yelling at me and telling me I’m a complete sissy. Come on you *****, two more reps!
The reason why I need to keep the rewards of my labor on the top of my mind is not really clear to me. It’s hard for me to do something simply because I know it’s good for me. Probably for the same reason it’s hard for somebody to lose weight unless they have a bet. If I don’t have that goal in mind every couple minutes, it just doesn’t seem as important.
Ironically, in real life, I am exactly the opposite. I have no specific five-year plan. I think that would lack flexibility, which in my mind is a must-have. Do I look at the big picture, yes. Do all of the boring runs and half marathons add up to me being in pretty decent shape over the long haul? Sure. I get it.
This just goes to show that even short-term goals can require someone to be quite motivated all of the time. Which I am.
But, as I said, I need the help. And that motivation comes to me every once in a while through websites like this – where words of wisdom can be short and sweet, or absorbed gradually.
I prefer the short and sweet. So for me, I keep closeby one saying that sums it all up. It’s at the bed stand or next to the faucet – somewhere I will see it, even if it’s dark and cold and stagnant outside.
“Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Silence Quotes

There are times when silence has the loudest voice. -Leroy Brownlow
Silence is a source of great strength. -Lao Tzu
See how nature – trees, flowers, grass – grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence…we need silence to be able to touch souls. -Mother Teresa of Calcutta
Silence is the true friend that never betrays. -Confucius
I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet strangely, I am ungrateful to these teachers. -Kahlil Gibran
Let us be silent, that we may hear the whispers of the gods. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in an clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness. Our life is a long and arduous quest after Truth. -Mahatma Gandhi
Lying is done with words and also with silence. -Adrienne Rich
Silence is the safest course for any man to adopt who distrusts himself -François de la Rochefoucauld
Silence is more eloquent than words -Thomas Carlyle
To sin by silence when they should protest makes cowards of men. -Abraham Lincoln
Silence is one of the great arts of conversation. -Marcus Tullius Cicero
The world would be happier if men had the same capacity to be silent that they have to speak -Baruch Spinoza
I often regret that I have spoken; never that I have been silent. -Publilius Syrus
When the eagles are silent the parrots begin to jabber. -Winston Churchill
That man’s silence is wonderful to listen to. -Thomas Hardy
And Silence, like a poultice, comes to heal the blows of sound. -Oliver Wendell Holmes
An inability to stay quiet is one of the most conspicuous failings of mankind. -Walter Bagehot
Silence is as deep as eternity, speech as shallow as time. -Thomas Carlyle
The tree of silence bears the fruit of peace. -Arabian proverb
Silence is the perfectos herald of joy. I were but little happy if I could say how much. -William Shakespeare
True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment. -William Penn
Silence at the proper season is wisdom, and better than any speech. -Plutarch
The Pause; that impressive silence, that eloquent silence, that geometrically progressive silence which often achieves a desired effect where no combination of words, however so felicitous, could accomplish it. -Mark Twain
In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. -Martin Luther King, Jr.
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. -Martin Luther King, Jr.
No one has a finer command of language than the person who keeps his mouth shut. -Sam Rayburn
One of the lessons of history is that nothing is often a good thing to do and always a clever thing to say. -Will Durant
Silence is golden when you can’t think of a good answer. -Muhammad Ali
In silence man can most readily preserve his integrity. -Meister Eckhart

Making Mistakes Quotes

I make a lot of mistakes.
How about you?
These “making mistakes quotes” below should help you not feel so bad about your blunders. Maybe that’s a good place to start in fixing our mistakes?
1. There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from. -Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
2. If you don’t make mistakes, you aren’t really trying. -Coleman Hawking
3. The man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything. -Edward Phelps
4. A winner is someone who accepts his failures and mistakes, picks up the pieces, and continues striving to reach his goals. -Dexter Yager
5. The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. -John Powell
6. If you aren’t making many mistakes, it is sure sign you are playing it too safe. -John Maxwell
7. Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life. -Sophia Loren
8. An expert is a man who has made all the mistakes which can be made in a very narrow field. -Niels Bohr
9. The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one. -Elbert Hubbard
10. If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down, but the staying down. -Mary Pickford
11. From errors of others, a wise man corrects his own. -Syrus
12. Admit your errors before someone else exaggerates them. -Andrew Mason
13. Just because you make mistakes doesn’t mean you are one. -Anonymous
14. If you shut your door to all errors truth will be shut out. -Rabindranath Tagore
15. Mistakes are the usual bridge between inexperience and wisdom. -Phyllis Theroux
16. As long as the world is turning and spinning, we’re gonna be dizzy and we’re gonna make mistakes. -Mel Brooks
17. You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm. -Colette
18. If a mistake is not a stepping stone, it is a mistake. -Eli Siegel
19. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, make amends immediately. It’s easier to eat crow while it’s still warm. -Dan Heist
20. Mistakes fail in their mission of helping the person who blames them on the other fellow. -Henry Haskins
21. Making mistakes simply means you are learning faster. -Weston Agor
22. I never make stupid mistakes. Only very, very clever ones. -John Peel
23. It was when I found out I could make mistakes that I knew I was on to something. -Ornette Coleman
24. If you do not make mistakes, you are not working on hard enough problems. And that’s a big mistake. -F. Wikzek
25. Never say, ‘‘oops.’’ Always say, ‘‘Ah, interesting.’’ -Anonymous

10 Positives Assumptions

10 Positive Assumptions
1) I will make and keep my commitments.
2) I will find the right people who can help me.
3) I will look for an answer in every problem.
4) I will give up “trying” and simply do.
5) I will make it okay to be wrong and make mistakes.
6) I will create my own “good luck”.
7) I will not be afraid to lose before I win.
8) I will do it now!
9) I will be who I am and become what I was meant to be.
10)I will accept that all things are possible.
-Robert Anthony, in his book “Betting on Yourself”

A Thought About Gossip

Here’s a great thought about gossip, called “Who Am I?“.
I am more deadly than the screaming shell of the cannon.
I win without killing.
I tear down homes, break hearts, and wreck lives.
I travel on the wings of the wind.
No innocence is strong enough to intimidate me, no purity pure enough to daunt me.
I have no regard for truth, no respect for justice, no mercy for the defenseless.
My victims are as numerous as the sands of the sea and often as innocent.
I never forget and seldom forgive.
My name is Gossip.

Pursue Your Dreams

All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. -Walt Disney

Do you have the courage to pursue your dreams? Not only pursuing your dreams but reaching them and making sure that they do come true is a challenge. It is very easy to dream but actually doing what it takes to make sure that your dreams become a reality is hard. Here are some ways that you can develop courage and increase the likelihood that

your dream will become a reality.

1. Become very clear about your dream. Know exactly what you want to get. Visualize it in your mind with as clear of details as possible. Napolean Hill said in his famous book, Think and Grow Rich, Thoughts are Things. What you think about, you bring about. Make sure that you are thinking about your dream in clear and positive ways.

2. Write down your dream. Give it life with as many details as possible. Include all aspects of your life. Write down with as much clarity as you can the action steps that you will take to make your dream happen.

3. Find pictures from magazines, newspapers and other sources that tell the story of your dream. Cut these out and glue them on a board to create a dream board. Add words that also describe your dream. Keep your board in a place where you will look at it regularly.

4. Take your dream board and create a dream and vision video with the same images and text. Watch the video regularly and share it with your friends, family, support team, mentors and anyone else you feel like sharing it with. You may even also want to put it on your website or blog for the whole world to see.

5. When you are struggling or encountering challenges, remember that no one ever realizes their dream without these. Make a plan as to how you will overcome them and move forward.

Reach for the stars and if you miss you will at least reach the rooftop.-Anonymous

Success is the Bride of Endeavor

It’s the coward who stops at misfortune,
It’s the knave who changes each day;
It’s a fool who wins half the battle,
And throws all his chances away.

There’s little in life but labor,
And tomorrow may prove but a dream,
Success is the bride of Endeavor,
And luck but a meteor’s gleam.

The time to succeed is when others
Discouraged, show traces of tire;
The battle is fought in the homestretch
And won ‘twixt the flage and the wire.